Social Media Addiction – The rush for instant gratification

Social Media Addiction – The rush for instant gratification

Social media addiction

Throwback to the days I was addicted to social media.

I would check it every morning
I would be motivated or demotivated by my following
I would plan my life around creating content rather than just enjoy my day.

– I started to create content I know people will like instead of being present in my life, I was willing to fly to heaven on at my own birthday party and leave everyone behind just for the gram. Lool
– I felt like my business was not progressing if I was not growing online

Until GOD in heaven himself told me to come offline and focus on the task he had set me. (To write my first book about my life and the journey from sexual abuse, abandonment and rejection to total healing and freedom in him) – out in October 2021

90 days no social media set me free.

– I now could care less about following and likes cos my value is in Christ alone
– I focus on the things that will actually grow my business (when I have the time) #mumpreneurs
@profitfromhomemums

– I post to serve, not to gain
– True business clarity comes from God himself not man

Have you considered doing a social media fast or have you done it before, Please share your experience with me and what you changed for you.

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When we doubt after obedience.

When we doubt after obedience.

Can we normalise, sometimes have seasons of doubt on our FAITH Journey and it is ok. It does mean we do not trust God, it just means that our flesh is trying to catch up with the spirit (off topic, but I come up with some good bars/quotes for my non London British)

I was reading my kids the story of Gideon from their children’s bible and God gave him a word and he asked God to show him a sign. Not once but twice.  And GOD did. God showed him,BOTH times. God understands the limitations of our minds and the key is to always remember that God is not a man that he should Lie.

When doubt sets in, doubt your doubts.

– Faith Journey Hacks

-Be obedient
– When doubt comes after obedience,  don’t ignore the thought, bring it before God and he will bring the peace your flesh is fighting against.

– Remember, our flesh is not coming to heaven with us so it will fight to preserve itself when it comes to spiritual matters (another bar).

– Social media only shows snippets of people’s lives. So don’t compare your whole life to a snippet.

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#faithjournaling
#faithbasedbusiness
#doubtyourdoubts
#christianencouragement

5 Valentine’s Day last minute date ideas for couples in Lockdown

5 Valentine’s Day last minute date ideas for couples in Lockdown

(Estimated read time: 4 minutes)

We are personally not going to let COVID ruin our couple time. From non-explicit love song playlist and movies to black-owned recommendations on gifts for any day, if you’re scrabbling around for ideas this year, we’ve got you covered!

(1) Have a cosy COVID-safe date night indoors 🔥🎵 (get the slippers and robe out!)

Look, we know the situation outdoors, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a safe and cosy night in with your significant other! Scent your house with one of Eliana’s Wax Melts, buy a custom his and hers mug from black-owned Muggashop.com and fill it with some hot chocolate and roasted marshmallows by your fireplace. If you don’t have a real fireplace, you can snuggle up beside a surprisingly realistic 4K fireplace for absolutely free – just plug it into your monitor/screen, turn the lights don low and turn the brightness up to full on your screen (use surround sound for extra crackle!).

We’ve spared you the trouble of finding relaxing and romantic songs that glorify God by put together a playlist of songs to get you going! Dance, two-step and enjoy!

Our tasteful Valentine’s Day playlist

Including:

– Christon Gray – My love is real
– Mali Music – Heavy Love
– Mali Music – Beautiful
– Guvna B – I wanna be Valentines special
– Anthony Hamilton – Everybody
– Trip lee feat Leah Smith – Good thing
– Christon Gray – Isle of You
– NewSong – When God made you
– Thinking out loud – Thiago Lima sax

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(2) DIY Spa Evening 🛀🏿🧼

Freshen up in style with a custom Spa evening experience. Fellas, be sure to pamper your significant other this Valentine’s Day. Run the bathtub, illuminate your bathroom with 2-3 strategically (and safely) placed candles. This flickering light is a perfect mood setter and relaxer. Apply a generous helping of fizzling Radox bath salts into the tub and relax for that Adam and Eve experience!

DIY-spa-day-at-home

When it comes to massage oils, you can get creative and use olive oil as this is also garners amazing results for any massage therapy. If you have any professional massage oils on hand all the better.

Check out How to cope as a Christian during the PANDEMIC

(3) Cook/Bake together 🌮🥂

Date-night-cook-together-for-valentines

They say food is the way to a man’s heart, but you’d be surprised how easy it is for couples to bond through making something together – after all, isn’t this a large part of what marriage is about? If you and your beau are the creative culinary type, below are some sweet recipes you could do together and indulge in later:

DIY recipe boxes

Hello fresh DIY mealbox
Mindful Chef
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If you’re looking for a refreshing beverage to wash down your meal, here are some delicious non-alcoholic/alcohol alternatives to enjoy. Take a quick trip to Tesco’s and Asda for these bad-boys:

Schloer Rose sparkling juice
Pure Heaven
Kopperberg alcohol free mixed fruit
Mighty Malt

(4) Watch/rent a romantic (Christian) movie online 🎭

We know what you’re thinking, “but there are no GOOD romantic Christian movies out there!”. Well you’re wrong! Check out our list of Christian movies you can watch and enjoy with your significant other with NO ADS, some FREE and some for a fraction of the price of buying and 10 times more compelling than “The Notebook”. Watch the trailers below:

Fireproof (Run time: 1 hour 58 mins ) *****
War room (Run time: 2 hours) ****
– It’s a life worth living (FREE on YouTube – Run time: 1 hour 44mins) ***
God’s Compass (FREE on YouTube – Run time: 1 hour 22mins) ***

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(5) Question time and games with hubby 😂💬

Date your husband or wife all over again with our 21 questions for a fun. You can plan out your goals, and get to know each other more! These questions will ideally help you to connect deeper with your partner – I repeat, IT IS NOT AN INTERROGATION! Play this 21 questions instrumental on repeat for added effect…

Black-couple-during- lockdown

We recommend you write your questions down on a piece of paper, and pick them out of a bowl, taking turns to answer them. The key here is to be playful and fun, rather than serious! Below are a few suggestions for questions to get you started:

– What movie character or celebrity reminds you of me the most?
– What is your favourite feature about me (physical)
– What is one thing you’re glad you’ll never have to do again?
– In life, what has been the biggest blessing to you (other than me, of course!)
– What was the best date we’ve ever been on, in your opinion?

Here is a cool list of 50 Christian couples questions you can pick and choose from if you get stuck.

Whew! We believe this should be enough to keep you busy this year. Like more than one of these or want to implement your own ideas? Feel free to modify and mix it up. Share with friends, family and that special person!

Financial breakthrough Testimony | GOD can do the same for you

Financial breakthrough Testimony | GOD can do the same for you

Just a short testimony of a financial breakthrough. As a business owner, we all know that any business required investment. Besides time and effort, finances is a big requirement. In order to build my business I needed finances I didn’t have so I prayed and educated myself and through this process God was able to provide £2500 in one day.

Trusting God for Financial Breakthrough

Understanding that God is Jehovah Jireh is a mental breakthrough we all need to have as christians. Knowing that the God we serve is a provider means that we will operate our faith accordingly.

Check out my crazy faith prayer list

Prayer for Financial Breakthrough

You may be wondering if there is a specific prayer or decrees we can say in order to have a breakthrough but the truth is that prayer is personal and our situations are subjective. The key points is to be specific with God. Not because he doesn’t know our situation but for our own good. Praying and fasting for a financial breakthrough testimony demonstrates faith.

I also share a financial miracle for our mortgage

How to have a financial breakthrough

Check out my own testimony of a financial miracle I experienced. I was struggling in my business and needed money to continue, I prayed to God about it and started to educate myself how to save money as a home based business owner. I came across a woman who mentioned that as a business owner, you are entitled to some tax credits that can offset any loses you have made within your business. I got to work and managed to make £2500 back which I used to invest into my business. Faith without works is dead so besides from having faith, I educated myself and invested in knowing the right information.

 

 

 

Doing the 21 day Daniel Fast – Dealing with Temptations

Doing the 21 day Daniel Fast – Dealing with Temptations

So if you have been following the journey of the 21 days Daniel fast journey, you will know that we are one week into the fast and today was the first day that I almost fell into temptation with food. Today we will be discussing dealing with temptations

The previous 6 days had been easy due to being at home 95% of the time. The only reason I leave my house is to pick up my kids from school. I work from home and I run my business from home so I have no need to go out. Plus, let us not forget the pandemic that has impacted every area of our lives 

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Is there a difference when it comes to sin

Sometimes we can look at someone elses sin and judge them and think that what they have done is a lot worse than the sin we commit. The same mentality can apply to temptation. Someone may be tempted by pornograph while someone else may be tempted by food. The same self disciple is requires for both scenarios.

What the Daniel fast is teaching me

I realised that I struggle with food, I eat when I am stressed, I eat when I am bored and I am a super foodie who has a lot of intolerances so I binge on the ‘healthy foods’ I am allowed to eat. This is known as gluttony and a lot of the times we can treat it like it is no big deal until the scales tell us otherwise.

My day was extremely stressful, I had to take my mum to the airport and bring her back as they will not allow her to board the plan without a covid certificate. This meant I had to carry all her suitcases from the cab, into the the airport and do the same thing back home.

All I wanted to do was eat, eat to ease my stress levels and to make matters worse, my mum only had African food filled with meat.

Dealing with temptation during the Daniel Fast

As we arrived back to her house, I was tempted to just go into the fridge and grab some food. It was a real battle, I was having a full blown conversation in my head. I was trying to justify why I am allowed to eat food that is off the Daniel Fast plan. I told myself that God will understand.

Have you every tried to justify your compromise?

The good thing is that I managed to talk myself out of compromising. It is so true when the bible says that God does not tempt us.

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13

This really taught me that I am capable of not following my initial thoughts or desires but I am able to able to implement self discipline in anything I put my mind to. God has given us the ability to deal with any temptation that comes our way and we do not need to be bound or addicted to anything.

I share my Daniel fast experience in this video

My Daniel Fast Experience – Priorities and Prayer

My Daniel Fast Experience – Priorities and Prayer

It is currently day 4 and 5 of the fast and prayer needs to become a priority. Learning to dedicate time to actually praying is essential and I have noticed that going into prayer does not excite me as I know it should. If we are honest and transparent, you will probably admit the same thing.

There are other things in my life that I am more excited about and look forward to do, for example, eating.lol. I enjoy making new meals, presenting them nicely and eating it or watching programmes on Youtube or Netflix. What excites you more than prayer?

Daniel Fast Experience priorities and prayer

Acknowledging our flaws does not mean we have to stay that way. After doing my reading and devotions of the day I realised that as long as I have the intention to priorities prayer, the more likely I will do it. One of the devotions made me realised that I am sitting on inheritance but not claiming it.

Imagine knowing that someone has left you with an inheritance of 20 million, you know how to claim it, you have been informed that it is yours but choosing or refusing to claim it. This is exactly the same thing we are doing when it  comes to prayer.

Check out my Daniel Fast Previous Post 

Prayer is like a JESUS CHRIST credit card

We have the JESUS CHRIST credit card and we are allowed to use it but instead of going to the shops we are choosing to stay at home and be miserable.  When you start to see the value in prayer, your desire for it changes or should I say increases.

HOW TO PRAY when you don’t enjoy it

To make the statement that we do not enjoy prayer means we are basing it on feelings.

Prayer is not about feelings, it’s about connection

The core foundation of Christianity is relationship, and relationship is developed through connection. We this changed mindset let us talk about how to actually do it in our daily lives

Tips on how to pray

I have seen for acronym  PRAY to stand for PRAISE – REPENT – ASK – YIELD

PRAISE – Praise is how you are to enter into the presence of God  (Singing, or play some praise and worship in the background if it helps)

REPENT – Taking the time to ask God to search your heart and help you repent from anything that has come between you and him. Or asking God to reveal any sin in your life you may be overlooking.

YIELD – Yeilding is when you stop talking , and you wait, listen. and seek to hear from God

Don’t worry about the time, if you pray for 5mins or 2 hours, it doesn’t matter right now. Just do it

Check out Ultimate Daniel Fast for all you need to know about the fast

Day 3 of doing the Daniel Fast – The struggles

Day 3 of doing the Daniel Fast – The struggles

I realised that I actually do not priorities my time with God.  I do not commit time to actually spend time with God. The worse thing is that I know that it is my source, it is my lifeline but I neglect it for other things that do not feed my spirit or help me to grow as a Christian woman or a faith based business woman. Doing this Daniel Fast is highlighting to me the areas I lack in and we could say that this is part of the process in my spiritual walk but sometimes we can identify a flaw but do nothing about it. I have decided to do something about it.

Struggling with the Daniel Fast Tips

I have read  and watched a lot of peoples experiences and most of them mentioned their struggle with the food. I am finding the food element of the Daniel fast pretty easy, I think partially because I was already gluten, egg and daily free plus due to having IBS I was restricted on what I could eat already. So the tips I am about to share are working in process tips so here we go.

How to grow spiritually on the Daniel Fast

Many people say the Daniel Fast changed their lives. I want to have the same testimony so anything that requires growth needs to be watered. In order to grow spiritually we need to do spiritual things. So I decided to commit my self to a few rules on a daily basis

Rule one – Read daily

I am doing a 21 day Daniel fast devotion via YouVersion plus reading the book of Daniel – I have committed to achieving this no matter how I feel or what time with the 24 hours of the day. It has to be done

Rule two – Pick a personalised devotion

Two areas of my life that I need help and clarity in are in my business and in building meaningful relationships with people and being consistent with it. I love and care about people but I know that I am capable of sharing and. showing people that I love and care about them through my actions. So during this fast, I want to have a break through and see a change in my attitude and character because there is no such thing as this is just who I am. We all have the ability to grow and develop in areas

Rule three – Pray in your own way

Sometimes we compare ourselves to others when God has already told you that he accepts you for who you are. You do not have to change the style or length of time of your prayer because you are fasting. If it happens naturally then praise God, but as I mentioned before, anything that needs to grow needs to be watered. The more you do something the easier it becomes and the better it gets.

Having IBS and doing the Daniel Fast

The Daniel Fast is vegan based so it includes a lot of vegetables, a lot of high fodmap vegetables like beans and onion and garlic. The average western diet accounts for only 15% being fibre. On the Daniel Fast that can go up to about 40 – 50% at times and this does not sit well with people like me.

I have IBS-c and suffer from a lot of bloating and gas and this is exactly what happened on day 1 – 3 of the fast. I was extremely bloated that I felt sick. My stomach had extended by about 10 inches and I looked 5 months pregnant.

Give your stomach a break

I tried peppermint capsules which usually helps but didn’t this time so I had to give my stomach a break and just do a juice fast for about 18 hours. Giving my stomach time to rest. In this time I went back to the drawing board of my Daniel fast plan and review what I can actually eat that will minimise a flaw up. So all the high Fodmap ingredients needed to either go or reduce drastically.

Plan your meals and be adaptable

Plan your meals so they are both Daniel fast compliant but also low Fodmap as much as possible. I did this by watching general vegan recipe videos and low Fodmap recipes and adapt them to fall in line with the fast.

 

 

 

How to cope as a Christian during the PANDEMIC : Covid-19 CoronaVirus

How to cope as a Christian during the PANDEMIC : Covid-19 CoronaVirus

We are in a season of uncertainty, a season of not being able to predict our tomorrow and it can feel very unsettling. We are use to living a life believing that we have the ability to control our lives and our day but this ‘PANDEMIC’ has thrown all of that false believe out of the window.

I recall going to the shops and seeing shelves empty, seeing people panic buy and I must admit, I got caught up in the craze. But my husband decided that we need to see everything for what it really is. We are living in the end times and Jesus is coming back for his church.

The truth is that, our pastor was mentioning the return of Christ, nearly every week but it’s like we became so use to hearing it that we become desensitised to the expression.

UNTIL a prophecy was released into the congregation. God himself spoke and told us that He is coming soon so no time to play church. No time to pretend that we are saved when our lives reflect something else.

HOW TO COPE

Firstly you need to know what the bible says

These are words spoken by Jesus, letting us know the signs of the end times.

Luke 21:10-13 New International Version (NIV)

10 Then he said to them: “Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. 11 There will be great earthquakes, famines and pestilences in various places, and fearful events and great signs from heaven.

12 “But before all this, they will seize you and persecute you. They will hand you over to synagogues and put you in prison, and you will be brought before kings and governors, and all on account of my name. 13 And so you will bear testimony to me.

Matthew 24:6-7 New International Version (NIV)

6 You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come. 7 Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in various places.

We need to rest assured that everything that is happening needs to happen. It is just for a season and God is in control.

Secondly, check yourself.

The bible teaches us to test ourselves to know that we are in the faith. Take a few minutes and reflect and evaluate what you REALLY believe. Do you really believe in what the bible teaches, do you believe in the words of Jesus. Do you live a life that brings glory to God? If not, then it is time to make a decision.

2 Corinthians 13: 5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realise that Christ Jesus is in you–unless, of course, you fail the test?

Thirdly, Trust GOD and Wash YOUR HANDS

Even through we can find peace in knowing the word of God, it is also wise to take the necessary precautions to keep yourself and family safe. Like in Passover story, the Israelites where instructed to put blood on their doorpost and stay indoors. Only a fool, will say ‘ I am covered so I will go out’. Don’t be a fool and think that if you put yourself in harms way that it is God’s duty to save you. Be wise and take action. Plus, Check out a video I created with my husband on how we need to be as christians during this Covid- 19 pandemic.

Christian coping strategies for coronavirus

Is Jesus your first Goal? 5 ways to draw closer to God

Is Jesus your first Goal? 5 ways to draw closer to God

Making Jesus my First Goal! The key questions is , are you setting all these goals but forgetting the number one focus. Putting God first?

Is Jesus your First Goal? Goal Setting

Being an ambitious and driven woman, I am all for goal setting and striving for excellence but in setting goals and working towards them, God convicted me about putting him first. God has given us the promises in his word that if we put Him first then everything else in our lives will work out. So why do we rush around setting goals, creating vision boards, buying courses, going to events if we have not got our priority in check. Have you consciously made Jesus your first goal?

MATTHEW 10 : 37

37 “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.

Second Scripture : LUKE 12: 31

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.

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5 ways to draw closer to God

Assess your relationship

Christianity is all about relationship. Are you on the same page with God in the secret place

Do you desire a relationship

If you do not desire a relationship, you will not have it. If you do not believe that you want or desire it then as humans we will self sabotage and we will never have that relationship unless we desire it.

What do I need to build this relationship – Talk

Praying, speaking, pouring your hard out to him.

Get to know God

Read your bible – Show an interest in who God is. Get to know him

Top Tip : The Principle of the First 15

Pray for 5 mins

Read for 5 mins

Write for 5 mins – Journal because

Desire the will of God

What does God want you to do. What mark do you want me to leave on this earth Lord.

Check out: God Answered my Crazy Faith Prayer

Is Jesus your first Goal

My Crazy Faith Prayer List came True

My Crazy Faith Prayer List came True

In today’s post we have a guest writer and she wanted to share how trusting God and having crazy faith can pay off.

The Power of Prayer

 

Here is my testimony about the power of prayer – Antigua:
crazy faith prayers comes true
It’s been a LONGG time coming, but finally!!
Last year, the key thing I needed to work on was my prayer life. I don’t know but sometimes I think we play it too safe with our prayers, and often times our requests to God are mundane. I have read stories in the Bible where God has been able to do remarkable things and I  have even heard jaw dropping testimonies, but yet I failed to believe the same in my own life. However, this time, it’s like God wanted to show me that He can go beyond & that He wanted to demonstrate just how powerful He is. I then realised that it was time for me to let my requests match the God that I serve, increase my faith in Him & His ability to do miracles.

My Crazy Faith Prayer List

 

crazy faith prayer list

This inspired me to create what I call a 𝑪𝒓𝒂𝒛𝒚 𝑭𝒂𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑷𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝑳𝒊𝒔𝒕📝.This consists of requests which deep down, I would love to see happen, but on a regular day it probably wouldn’t (this is D O U B T)… sooo instead I would then pray & genuinely believe that in time these things would come to pass (this is F A I T H).
Best believe God was ticking off those boxes!!✅ ..To the point where I had to share my testimony at church to encourage my church family…

Crazy Faith in Action

 

However, there was 1 prayer on my list which was ‘𝑷𝒓𝒂𝒚 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝑨𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒂🇦🇬 𝑻𝑯𝑰𝑺 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 ‘
Let me explain the significance of this request..
My church are part of a Christian Fellowship which have a strong vision for World Evangelism, and during our annual Bible conferences, Pastors & their wives, who have a burden to spread the Gospel will announce which areas across the world they are going in to make an impact.
Antigua is a small island in the Caribbean, and for those who don’t know, my parents are from there & half of my entire family live over there.
I’ve visited the island a few times and have seen that people have a love for God, but not many are on the road to salvation. I desperately want them to get saved & be involved in a full gospel church where they can grow spiritually & see a REAL change in their lives, just like I have.
But can you imagineee, that throughout my life I’ve hardly met any other Antiguan’s in London and for most people, I’m literally the only one they know! Lol..so I knew this request was definitely going to be a test of my faith.
In Oct 2018, the International announcements were about to be made on the Thursday night of conference. I was so nervous that day, because at this point EVERYONE in my church knew what I prayed for and I am  not gonna lie, I didn’t want to be disappointed. I wanted the end result to be a testimony to God’s faithfulness and an opportunity for others to be encouraged that God really does answer prayers, IF you have the FAITH to back it up.

So let me tell you…𝐍𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐃𝐎𝐔𝐁𝐓 𝐆𝐎𝐃

 

That night IT actually happened! The couple sitting in the row in front of me were announced to go into St. John’s Antigua. Not only was it the country I prayed for, but also the exact town where the majority of my family live, and the Pastor himself is Antiguan! Haha look at that!..It was an awesome moment, I just remember my church fam coming up to me saying ” OMDZ GOD ANSWERED YOUR PRAYER DEE!!
🔥🔥💃🏾🙌🏾”  🤣 the excitement was real..& little did I know but some of them were praying too❤
I’m sorry but you could never put this down to a coincidence, this has God’s stamp ALL over it.
evangelising in Antigue
So fast forward to Nov 2019,  my church were privileged to be the 1st ever Impact Team to the new church in Antigua. The pictures above speak for themselves. In the space of a week, we were able to maximise every opportunity we had to spread the gospel, via radio interviews with ZDK, outreach in the town, music on the float etc. It was LIT.
But most importantly, we saw over 20 people give their lives to Christ & amongst those, my aunty was healed of an issue in her knee that she’s had for years.
I wanted to share a snapshot of this trip with you guys so God could get the praise He deserves & because this whole experience shows 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐏𝐎𝐖𝐄𝐑 𝐎𝐅 𝐏𝐑𝐀𝐘𝐄𝐑🙏
my crazy faith