We are personally not going to let COVID ruin our couple time. From non-explicit love song playlist and movies to black-owned recommendations on gifts for any day, if you’re scrabbling around for ideas this year, we’ve got you covered!
(1) Have a cosy COVID-safe date night indoors 🔥🎵 (get the slippers and robe out!)
Look, we know the situation outdoors, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a safe and cosy night in with your significant other! Scent your house with one of Eliana’s Wax Melts, buy a custom his and hers mug from black-owned Muggashop.com and fill it with some hot chocolate and roasted marshmallows by your fireplace. If you don’t have a real fireplace, you can snuggle up beside a surprisingly realistic 4K fireplace for absolutely free – just plug it into your monitor/screen, turn the lights don low and turn the brightness up to full on your screen (use surround sound for extra crackle!).
We’ve spared you the trouble of finding relaxing and romantic songs that glorify God by put together a playlist of songs to get you going! Dance, two-step and enjoy!
– Christon Gray – My love is real
– Mali Music – Heavy Love
– Mali Music – Beautiful
– Guvna B – I wanna be Valentines special
– Anthony Hamilton – Everybody
– Trip lee feat Leah Smith – Good thing
– Christon Gray – Isle of You
– NewSong – When God made you
– Thinking out loud – Thiago Lima sax
(2) DIY Spa Evening 🛀🏿🧼
Freshen up in style with a custom Spa evening experience. Fellas, be sure to pamper your significant other this Valentine’s Day. Run the bathtub, illuminate your bathroom with 2-3 strategically (and safely) placed candles. This flickering light is a perfect mood setter and relaxer. Apply a generous helping of fizzling Radox bath salts into the tub and relax for that Adam and Eve experience!
When it comes to massage oils, you can get creative and use olive oil as this is also garners amazing results for any massage therapy. If you have any professional massage oils on hand all the better.
They say food is the way to a man’s heart, but you’d be surprised how easy it is for couples to bond through making something together – after all, isn’t this a large part of what marriage is about? If you and your beau are the creative culinary type, below are some sweet recipes you could do together and indulge in later:
(4) Watch/rent a romantic (Christian) movie online 🎭
We know what you’re thinking, “but there are no GOOD romantic Christian movies out there!”. Well you’re wrong! Check out our list of Christian movies you can watch and enjoy with your significant other with NO ADS, some FREE and some for a fraction of the price of buying and 10 times more compelling than “The Notebook”. Watch the trailers below:
Date your husband or wife all over again with our 21 questions for a fun. You can plan out your goals, and get to know each other more! These questions will ideally help you to connect deeper with your partner – I repeat, IT IS NOT AN INTERROGATION! Play this 21 questions instrumental on repeat for added effect…
We recommend you write your questions down on a piece of paper, and pick them out of a bowl, taking turns to answer them. The key here is to be playful and fun, rather than serious! Below are a few suggestions for questions to get you started:
– What movie character or celebrity reminds you of me the most?
– What is your favourite feature about me (physical)
– What is one thing you’re glad you’ll never have to do again?
– In life, what has been the biggest blessing to you (other than me, of course!)
– What was the best date we’ve ever been on, in your opinion?
Whew! We believe this should be enough to keep you busy this year. Like more than one of these or want to implement your own ideas? Feel free to modify and mix it up. Share with friends, family and that special person!
Just a short testimony of a financial breakthrough. As a business owner, we all know that any business required investment. Besides time and effort, finances is a big requirement. In order to build my business I needed finances I didn’t have so I prayed and educated myself and through this process God was able to provide £2500 in one day.
Trusting God for Financial Breakthrough
Understanding that God is Jehovah Jireh is a mental breakthrough we all need to have as christians. Knowing that the God we serve is a provider means that we will operate our faith accordingly.
You may be wondering if there is a specific prayer or decrees we can say in order to have a breakthrough but the truth is that prayer is personal and our situations are subjective. The key points is to be specific with God. Not because he doesn’t know our situation but for our own good. Praying and fasting for a financial breakthrough testimony demonstrates faith.
Check out my own testimony of a financial miracle I experienced. I was struggling in my business and needed money to continue, I prayed to God about it and started to educate myself how to save money as a home based business owner. I came across a woman who mentioned that as a business owner, you are entitled to some tax credits that can offset any loses you have made within your business. I got to work and managed to make £2500 back which I used to invest into my business. Faith without works is dead so besides from having faith, I educated myself and invested in knowing the right information.
So if you have been following the journey of the 21 days Daniel fast journey, you will know that we are one week into the fast and today was the first day that I almost fell into temptation with food. Today we will be discussing dealing with temptations
The previous 6 days had been easy due to being at home 95% of the time. The only reason I leave my house is to pick up my kids from school. I work from home and I run my business from home so I have no need to go out. Plus, let us not forget the pandemic that has impacted every area of our lives
Sometimes we can look at someone elses sin and judge them and think that what they have done is a lot worse than the sin we commit. The same mentality can apply to temptation. Someone may be tempted by pornograph while someone else may be tempted by food. The same self disciple is requires for both scenarios.
What the Daniel fast is teaching me
I realised that I struggle with food, I eat when I am stressed, I eat when I am bored and I am a super foodie who has a lot of intolerances so I binge on the ‘healthy foods’ I am allowed to eat. This is known as gluttony and a lot of the times we can treat it like it is no big deal until the scales tell us otherwise.
My day was extremely stressful, I had to take my mum to the airport and bring her back as they will not allow her to board the plan without a covid certificate. This meant I had to carry all her suitcases from the cab, into the the airport and do the same thing back home.
All I wanted to do was eat, eat to ease my stress levels and to make matters worse, my mum only had African food filled with meat.
Dealing with temptation during the Daniel Fast
As we arrived back to her house, I was tempted to just go into the fridge and grab some food. It was a real battle, I was having a full blown conversation in my head. I was trying to justify why I am allowed to eat food that is off the Daniel Fast plan. I told myself that God will understand.
Have you every tried to justify your compromise?
The good thing is that I managed to talk myself out of compromising. It is so true when the bible says that God does not tempt us.
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13
This really taught me that I am capable of not following my initial thoughts or desires but I am able to able to implement self discipline in anything I put my mind to. God has given us the ability to deal with any temptation that comes our way and we do not need to be bound or addicted to anything.
It is currently day 4 and 5 of the fast and prayer needs to become a priority. Learning to dedicate time to actually praying is essential and I have noticed that going into prayer does not excite me as I know it should. If we are honest and transparent, you will probably admit the same thing.
There are other things in my life that I am more excited about and look forward to do, for example, eating.lol. I enjoy making new meals, presenting them nicely and eating it or watching programmes on Youtube or Netflix. What excites you more than prayer?
Daniel Fast Experience priorities and prayer
Acknowledging our flaws does not mean we have to stay that way. After doing my reading and devotions of the day I realised that as long as I have the intention to priorities prayer, the more likely I will do it. One of the devotions made me realised that I am sitting on inheritance but not claiming it.
Imagine knowing that someone has left you with an inheritance of 20 million, you know how to claim it, you have been informed that it is yours but choosing or refusing to claim it. This is exactly the same thing we are doing when it comes to prayer.
We have the JESUS CHRIST credit card and we are allowed to use it but instead of going to the shops we are choosing to stay at home and be miserable. When you start to see the value in prayer, your desire for it changes or should I say increases.
HOW TO PRAY when you don’t enjoy it
To make the statement that we do not enjoy prayer means we are basing it on feelings.
Prayer is not about feelings, it’s about connection
The core foundation of Christianity is relationship, and relationship is developed through connection. We this changed mindset let us talk about how to actually do it in our daily lives
Tips on how to pray
I have seen for acronym PRAY to stand for PRAISE – REPENT – ASK – YIELD
PRAISE – Praise is how you are to enter into the presence of God (Singing, or play some praise and worship in the background if it helps)
REPENT – Taking the time to ask God to search your heart and help you repent from anything that has come between you and him. Or asking God to reveal any sin in your life you may be overlooking.
YIELD – Yeilding is when you stop talking , and you wait, listen. and seek to hear from God
Don’t worry about the time, if you pray for 5mins or 2 hours, it doesn’t matter right now. Just do it
I realised that I actually do not priorities my time with God. I do not commit time to actually spend time with God. The worse thing is that I know that it is my source, it is my lifeline but I neglect it for other things that do not feed my spirit or help me to grow as a Christian woman or a faith based business woman. Doing this Daniel Fast is highlighting to me the areas I lack in and we could say that this is part of the process in my spiritual walk but sometimes we can identify a flaw but do nothing about it. I have decided to do something about it.
Struggling with the Daniel Fast Tips
I have read and watched a lot of peoples experiences and most of them mentioned their struggle with the food. I am finding the food element of the Daniel fast pretty easy, I think partially because I was already gluten, egg and daily free plus due to having IBS I was restricted on what I could eat already. So the tips I am about to share are working in process tips so here we go.
How to grow spiritually on the Daniel Fast
Many people say the Daniel Fast changed their lives. I want to have the same testimony so anything that requires growth needs to be watered. In order to grow spiritually we need to do spiritual things. So I decided to commit my self to a few rules on a daily basis
Rule one – Read daily
I am doing a 21 day Daniel fast devotion via YouVersion plus reading the book of Daniel – I have committed to achieving this no matter how I feel or what time with the 24 hours of the day. It has to be done
Rule two – Pick a personalised devotion
Two areas of my life that I need help and clarity in are in my business and in building meaningful relationships with people and being consistent with it. I love and care about people but I know that I am capable of sharing and. showing people that I love and care about them through my actions. So during this fast, I want to have a break through and see a change in my attitude and character because there is no such thing as this is just who I am. We all have the ability to grow and develop in areas
Rule three – Pray in your own way
Sometimes we compare ourselves to others when God has already told you that he accepts you for who you are. You do not have to change the style or length of time of your prayer because you are fasting. If it happens naturally then praise God, but as I mentioned before, anything that needs to grow needs to be watered. The more you do something the easier it becomes and the better it gets.
Having IBS and doing the Daniel Fast
The Daniel Fast is vegan based so it includes a lot of vegetables, a lot of high fodmap vegetables like beans and onion and garlic. The average western diet accounts for only 15% being fibre. On the Daniel Fast that can go up to about 40 – 50% at times and this does not sit well with people like me.
I have IBS-c and suffer from a lot of bloating and gas and this is exactly what happened on day 1 – 3 of the fast. I was extremely bloated that I felt sick. My stomach had extended by about 10 inches and I looked 5 months pregnant.
Give your stomach a break
I tried peppermint capsules which usually helps but didn’t this time so I had to give my stomach a break and just do a juice fast for about 18 hours. Giving my stomach time to rest. In this time I went back to the drawing board of my Daniel fast plan and review what I can actually eat that will minimise a flaw up. So all the high Fodmap ingredients needed to either go or reduce drastically.
Plan your meals and be adaptable
Plan your meals so they are both Daniel fast compliant but also low Fodmap as much as possible. I did this by watching general vegan recipe videos and low Fodmap recipes and adapt them to fall in line with the fast.
We are in a season of uncertainty, a season of not being able to predict our tomorrow and it can feel very unsettling. We are use to living a life believing that we have the ability to control our lives and our day but this ‘PANDEMIC’ has thrown all of that false believe out of the window.
I recall going to the shops and seeing shelves empty, seeing people panic buy and I must admit, I got caught up in the craze. But my husband decided that we need to see everything for what it really is. We are living in the end times and Jesus is coming back for his church.
The truth is that, our pastor was mentioning the return of Christ, nearly every week but it’s like we became so use to hearing it that we become desensitised to the expression.
UNTIL a prophecy was released into the congregation. God himself spoke and told us that He is coming soon so no time to play church. No time to pretend that we are saved when our lives reflect something else.
HOW TO COPE
Firstly you need to know what the bible says
These are words spoken by Jesus, letting us know the signs of the end times.
Luke 21:10-13New International Version (NIV)
10 Then he said to them: “Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom.11 There will be great earthquakes, famines and pestilences in various places, and fearful events and great signs from heaven.
12 “But before all this, they will seize you and persecute you. They will hand you over to synagogues and put you in prison, and you will be brought before kings and governors, and all on account of my name.13 And so you will bear testimony to me.
Matthew 24:6-7New International Version (NIV)
6 You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come.7 Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in various places.
We need to rest assured that everything that is happening needs to happen. It is just for a season and God is in control.
Secondly, check yourself.
The bible teaches us to test ourselves to know that we are in the faith. Take a few minutes and reflect and evaluate what you REALLY believe. Do you really believe in what the bible teaches, do you believe in the words of Jesus. Do you live a life that brings glory to God? If not, then it is time to make a decision.
2 Corinthians 13: 5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realise that Christ Jesus is in you–unless, of course, you fail the test?
Thirdly, Trust GOD and Wash YOUR HANDS
Even through we can find peace in knowing the word of God, it is also wise to take the necessary precautions to keep yourself and family safe. Like in Passover story, the Israelites where instructed to put blood on their doorpost and stay indoors. Only a fool, will say ‘ I am covered so I will go out’. Don’t be a fool and think that if you put yourself in harms way that it is God’s duty to save you. Be wise and take action. Plus, Check out a video I created with my husband on how we need to be as christians during this Covid- 19 pandemic.
Making Jesus my First Goal! The key questions is , are you setting all these goals but forgetting the number one focus. Putting God first?
Is Jesus your First Goal? Goal Setting
Being an ambitious and driven woman, I am all for goal setting and striving for excellence but in setting goals and working towards them, God convicted me about putting him first. God has given us the promises in his word that if we put Him first then everything else in our lives will work out. So why do we rush around setting goals, creating vision boards, buying courses, going to events if we have not got our priority in check. Have you consciously made Jesus your first goal?
MATTHEW 10 : 37
37 “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
Second Scripture : LUKE 12: 31
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.
Christianity is all about relationship. Are you on the same page with God in the secret place
Do you desire a relationship
If you do not desire a relationship, you will not have it. If you do not believe that you want or desire it then as humans we will self sabotage and we will never have that relationship unless we desire it.
What do I need to build this relationship – Talk
Praying, speaking, pouring your hard out to him.
Get to know God
Read your bible – Show an interest in who God is. Get to know him
Top Tip : The Principle of the First 15
Pray for 5 mins
Read for 5 mins
Write for 5 mins – Journal because
Desire the will of God
What does God want you to do. What mark do you want me to leave on this earth Lord.
In today’s post we have a guest writer and she wanted to share how trusting God and having crazy faith can pay off.
The Power of Prayer
Here is my testimony about the power of prayer – Antigua:
It’s been a LONGG time coming, but finally!!
Last year, the key thing I needed to work on was my prayer life. I don’t know but sometimes I think we play it too safe with our prayers, and often times our requests to God are mundane. I have read stories in the Bible where God has been able to do remarkable things and I have even heard jaw dropping testimonies, but yet I failed to believe the same in my own life. However, this time, it’s like God wanted to show me that He can go beyond & that He wanted to demonstrate just how powerful He is. I then realised that it was time for me to let my requests match the God that I serve, increase my faith in Him & His ability to do miracles.
My Crazy Faith Prayer List
This inspired me to create what I call a 𝑪𝒓𝒂𝒛𝒚 𝑭𝒂𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑷𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓 𝑳𝒊𝒔𝒕.This consists of requests which deep down, I would love to see happen, but on a regular day it probably wouldn’t (this is D O U B T)… sooo instead I would then pray & genuinely believe that in time these things would come to pass (this is F A I T H).
Best believe God was ticking off those boxes!!✅ ..To the point where I had to share my testimony at church to encourage my church family…
Crazy Faith in Action
However, there was 1 prayer on my list which was ‘𝑷𝒓𝒂𝒚 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝑨𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒂🇦🇬 𝑻𝑯𝑰𝑺 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 ‘
Let me explain the significance of this request..
My church are part of a Christian Fellowship which have a strong vision for World Evangelism, and during our annual Bible conferences, Pastors & their wives, who have a burden to spread the Gospel will announce which areas across the world they are going in to make an impact.
Antigua is a small island in the Caribbean, and for those who don’t know, my parents are from there & half of my entire family live over there.
I’ve visited the island a few times and have seen that people have a love for God, but not many are on the road to salvation. I desperately want them to get saved & be involved in a full gospel church where they can grow spiritually & see a REAL change in their lives, just like I have.
But can you imagineee, that throughout my life I’ve hardly met any other Antiguan’s in London and for most people, I’m literally the only one they know! Lol..so I knew this request was definitely going to be a test of my faith.
In Oct 2018, the International announcements were about to be made on the Thursday night of conference. I was so nervous that day, because at this point EVERYONE in my church knew what I prayed for and I am not gonna lie, I didn’t want to be disappointed. I wanted the end result to be a testimony to God’s faithfulness and an opportunity for others to be encouraged that God really does answer prayers, IF you have the FAITH to back it up.
So let me tell you…𝐍𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐃𝐎𝐔𝐁𝐓 𝐆𝐎𝐃
That night IT actually happened! The couple sitting in the row in front of me were announced to go into St. John’s Antigua. Not only was it the country I prayed for, but also the exact town where the majority of my family live, and the Pastor himself is Antiguan! Haha look at that!..It was an awesome moment, I just remember my church fam coming up to me saying ” OMDZ GOD ANSWERED YOUR PRAYER DEE!!
🏾🏾” 🤣 the excitement was real..& little did I know but some of them were praying too
I’m sorry but you could never put this down to a coincidence, this has God’s stamp ALL over it.
So fast forward to Nov 2019, my church were privileged to be the 1st ever Impact Team to the new church in Antigua. The pictures above speak for themselves. In the space of a week, we were able to maximise every opportunity we had to spread the gospel, via radio interviews with ZDK, outreach in the town, music on the float etc. It was LIT.
But most importantly, we saw over 20 people give their lives to Christ & amongst those, my aunty was healed of an issue in her knee that she’s had for years.
I wanted to share a snapshot of this trip with you guys so God could get the praise He deserves & because this whole experience shows 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐏𝐎𝐖𝐄𝐑 𝐎𝐅 𝐏𝐑𝐀𝐘𝐄𝐑
Knowing our identity in Christ shapes and molds the way we view things and the decisions we make. I have decided to blog daily and focus on one chapter in the bible. Proverbs 31. This book is a cornerstone to what a godly woman ought to be and I believe that this series will reveal the love of God and also help me develop in understanding my purpose . We will start with a few verses each day and break it down .
Today we are focusing on Proverbs 31 vs1 – 3
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2 O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows, 3 do not waste your strength on women, on those who ruin kings.
These verses are words from a wise mother to her son. In context, she is referring to warning the King from having too many foreign wives. In my view; men may rule but women have influence. If a man marries a woman of a different culture or belief, their children will take up what they are influenced by.
Bring this into modern day life. If a man gets with a lady of different standards or beliefs eventually someone or something will have to give. Have you heard of the term ‘ to be unequally yoked” this applies to every area of our lives.
Moral of the story
Don’t waste your time with people and things that do not add to you. Do not date people for the sake of it. Do not give your emotion and body to someone who has the potential to ruin you and your destiny.
Invest in building friendships, invest in getting to know yourself. When you truly know your self and your value, you will have more to offer.
So we have a special guest who wanted to share her testimony.
Hello my name is shireene AKA shazzyB and I had been suffering with depression for over 21 years,
My depression experience
I felt ashamed of myself, lost, angry, isolated like somehow I had failed. That’s what depression does to you it makes you feel like a terrible failure. People close to me didn’t know that I was suffering from crippling depression I learned to put on an amazing show to world to hide my shame, but that became more and more difficult, depression makes it tough to function and enjoy life like you once did. Just trying to get through the day can be overwhelming.
How depression affect me
It can interfere with your ability to work, study, eat, sleep, and enjoy life. Making any kind of decisions, reading, or watching television can seem really hard with depression because you can’t think clearly or follow what’s happening and there’s no way to feel better. Depression made me feel that there’s no way ever to feel good again. I would hold on to negative events and experiences and be unable to see positives. Falling asleep at night or staying asleep at all felt nearly impossible, or I could sleep excessively, but still wake up feeling tired or unrefreshed, despite the extra hours of sleep.
Sometimes i could not get out of bed, or feel exhausted all the time even when getting enough sleep. I would feel too tired to do simple daily tasks. Living that life is a nightmare, and to top it all I had to try to hide if from my kids when they come home from school and pretend i am functional; to be fair they played a big part to me fighting this, I used to fight with myself every day to get out of bed to just function.
My journey to salvation
In 2018 October this is where my life transformed I made a decision to go to a church called Potters house in Harrow. In this month i have never cried out for help or change in my life ever like this i feel to my knees and literally began to plead with God to help me get my life together, I continued to attend church I was determined to read the whole the bible and what began to happen was a miracle.
My healing process
I gave up smoking within two weeks of attending church, my depression lifted as if it was never there, if you truly know depression it just doesn’t go i was on medication, had counselling for this mental illness for years so when this change in my life was happening it was unbelievable.
I could not comprehend how this was actually happening until i realised, I have not had a helpless moment in weeks, I can shake myself out of feeling helpless, this was the awesome power of my father, God has literally reached inside me and taken my smoking addiction and this depression out of my actual being because I felt new like a different person.
It was a very overwhelming feeling i can’t really put in to words what it feels like to truly know that God has answered my prayers you have to experience it for yourself it’s the most beautiful experience you will ever have,
I can say I feel free like a massive weight has been lifted every day making life much better to live.
God is truly good, all he wants you to understand is he is the one and true God, I celebrate the reality of his presence in my life and still for the last 9 months I am still overwhelmed by the fact that my Heavenly healing and Loving Father God and I have an amazing relationship and he continues to work within me he will never forsake me and God your Father yes he is yours too can do the same for you all you need do is speak from your heart and ask him.
Peace and God bless I hope this helps.
Sharing true stories of what God is able to do in real lives is amazing. Feel free to share your story and see God name be glorified.